So much change in so little time…
We are still reeling from the changes of the past year. Our path has been altered so much, yet we are still able to see how we must and can move forward.
After the deaths of three of the most beloved people in our lives, we became inundated with grief…and their stuff. We accepted furniture and dishes, we inherited a house and property, we have had to reimagine our dreams and redesign our goals, and we now feel confident about this new path we’ve been set upon.
All our hopes and dreams seem within grasp now. It will not be easy. The steps we see laid out in front of us, the process we’ve created to handle what comes our way, the plans we have developed to see us from this point to the fruition point are all thoughtfully sought and spiritually guided as we rely on our Maker once again.
We have been through hard times, and we have always been surrounded by bountiful blessings. Now that we recognize them, we see where we have been blessed, we know how to be thankful and less fearful of the future.
Where We are Now
Yesterday morning was greeted with a lot of excitement and a little trepidation as I phoned my new boss to inform her that I would accept her offer of a position. I will be the Communications Specialist for the local diocesan office. My “vast skill set” and “impressive education” have landed me my dream job!
We worked hard to get to this point, but this is merely one step. Much work will still need to be done.
The BHE will be stepping up around the home as he steps out of the traditional role of breadwinner. Shortly after I got off the phone, he called his boss to deliver his two-weeks’ notice. The BHE is now a SAHD!
That’s right, folks: my bearded, hardworking, dedicated, driven, intelligent husband will be caring for our children day in and day out.
But what about the projects?! We have so many projects between the three properties we now own that, yes, the BHE is going to need some help.
We discussed at length how we must set aside our control-freak natures and accept the assistance of others. We must tamp down our pride and stubbornness to get ahead by asking our friends, family, and neighbors for help.
Assistance and Accountability
I’ve been working diligently on 1-year, 2-year, and 5-year plans to show us each step of the way to our goals. I have been plugging projects into a spreadsheet and constantly jotting down ideas that I toss at the BHE and he tosses back at me. I am researching ballpark figures for what we want to do, where, and when. We even had a realtor come out to give us some advice. Yes, folks, we are moving forward like a steam engine, chugging along but aware we need to slow well before the curves.
The first thing I believe we will ask for is help with the children. When I enter this 8-5 M-F office job, the BHE is going to need someone to rely on a few days a week to care for our babes. He can’t get work done with two toddlers! We figured with the Angel starting PreK in the Fall on MWF, it would be best if he was SAHD those days but a friend or neighbor watched the kids on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Evenings and weekends will see me back in my Mommy role when he can get even more work done.
What is that work, you ask. Well, that’s where the Accountability comes it.
As much as we would like physical help, like people to paint or build or mow or roof or watch the kids or whatever, we also need to be reminded where we are on our path. It is all well and good if I print up a pretty checklist or create a spreadsheet that we look at from time-to-time, but we need to be reminded to check things off and follow the steps we have laid out.
When I complete my projects list, when I finish those long-term plan sheets, I will post them here for you to see where we are and where we are going. I keep thinking something cheesy like Friday Facts to share what we’ve completed and learned then Momentum Monday to explain where we hope to go next.
For instance, this week, I’ve built up our inventory on the eBay site and accepted a new job; next week, I will complete my father-in-law’s taxes so we can be (almost) all caught up on the clean-up of his estate and take a day to myself to prepare my body and wardrobe for the return to the workforce. This week, the BHE made serious progress on finishing the final bedroom upstairs at the big house and made some dough taking a truckload of cans to the recycling center; next week, he will complete that bedroom and order the replacement windows for the little house.
See? I’ve told you what we are doing. Now I feel like I’ll be letting you down if we don’t do it. That’s how this accountability thing works on my end. On your end, you get to share in our triumphs and pick us up when we falter. Thank you, dear reader, for agreeing to be part of our village.
That’s What Friends are For
I look forward to not only getting stuff done but getting connected to my village as we complete projects, move forward, and stay on our thoughtfully sought path towards our dream goals. In return, I will learn more about you so I can find opportunities to assist you where you need it. Networking is a powerful tool. Apply it correctly and we all see our goals come to fruition.
Where are you on your path? Do you need some help getting up and moving forward? Do you know how you can help others in your village to do so?