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Thoughtful Thursday: The Truth about Liars

Being untruthful hurts the speaker more than we realize, especially when we are lying about another person.  Where we think we are harming the person the lie is about, the truth is that we are placing ourselves in a position we will not be able to get out of.
We corner ourselves with our untruths, both in this life and on Judgment Day.

But we know that.  What we don’t recognize is the truth about liars that makes their lies so hurtful.

Their Co-conspirators

It isn’t the person being lied about who suffers the most.  It isn’t the liar who suffers the most.  It is the people who either believed those lies and helped spread them or knew what was untrue and did nothing to stop it.

The co-conspirators suffer the most damage.

The individual who chooses to accept gossip or a rumor to be a truth, or who chooses not to quash the lie swiftly, is worse than the liar.

A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in him, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in him.  But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken.  For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.
-Matthew 12:35-37

From the Bible

We have received guidance for how we are to react to lies and deceit.  We have been told that there are ramifications for our willingness to listen and repeat lies without taking the time to discover if they are true just as we have been shown what will become of those who stand aside and do nothing in the face of dishonesty and destructive words.

For instance:

  • Your heard that lie, you knew it to be a lie, and you did nothing. You let those words tear down a person you know, a person who called you a friend.  You listened to the liar but turned a deaf ear to those who welcomed you into their home.  You said nothing to the liar when he bombastically proclaimed ridiculous things to the crowd.  You chose to give no reaction as he waved his “proof” in the air.  You listened to him, and even if you didn’t repeat him, you supported him in your non-action.
  • You who repeated it, though…. You who chose to believe something so unbelievable and accepted your role as a co-conspirator to spread the lies.  You helped her repeat it again and again until it became a truth in your mind, until you could live with what you had done and not done.  She said such hurtful, ugly, and downright unbelievable things, but you were so mad you embraced the lies.  It was a conscious choice to believe the worst of things.

By Your Words You Will Be Acquitted

Choose truth. Choose justice. Choose the righteous path and you will be acquitted. Standing with the liars, or not standing against them, is how you will find yourself condemned. 

Find those you’ve hurt and apologize. Respond to those speaking untruths with the truth. Whatever your reason for being a co-conspirator, end it now.

I, too, need to end the cycle. I don’t want to carry the anger any more than I want to be subjected to the pain.  I do want to forgive and release the ill will.  I get so tired of the destructive nature of lies worming its way through daily life.

I will read this verse time and again to remind myself that my words do matter; whether I keep them as bottled up thoughts or share my angst, God is listening and I am being affected by my words as well as the lies told by others.

A Good Man Brings Good Things

It is never “just talk”; if it can hurt someone, do not say it.  If it doesn’t help anyone, if it doesn’t teach anyone, if it doesn’t solve anything, do not say it.

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Words can be weapons or they can be tools used to build.

If you say it, make sure it is building something beautiful.

Thoughtful Thursday: The Lord Hates

I find solace in this as well as a chance for introspection.  See, this one used to be such a finger-pointer for me.  I can see so easily in others when they do the seven things the Lord hates.

There are six things the Lord hates— no, seven things he detests: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that kill the innocent, a heart that plots evil, feet that race to do wrong, a false witness who pours out lies, a person who sows discord in a family.
-Proverbs 6:16-19

But I am guilty, too.

I have looked down on others, put myself above them with my education or morals or work ethic. I have told fibs, which I may believe to be harmless but could possibly hurt others.  I do not consider myself a liar and hold quite tightly to the belief that I am one of the most honest people, even to a fault, that I know.  Which takes us back up to the first point.  While I have never committed murder with my hands, I have hated in my heart, which Christ said was another way to kill someone.  Isn’t that a freaking eye-opener! I am not a vengeful person.  I do not plan revenge.  I do not race to do wrong but there are times where I should have raced to do good.  I should not stand back as often as I do and wait to witness the falling out of those who plot evil.  I do not lie nor have I slandered, but I have been a victim of such and know how it feels, how it hurts.  When discord was sown in my family, I am guilty of not pulling everyone together to put an end to it.

Introspection hurts, folks.  What are you thinking on this Thoughtful Thursday in Lent?

I can tell you that the main reason this is one of my favorite passages is that I find solace in knowing that behaviors from others which hurt me so deeply are behaviors that God abhors.  I do not need to seek revenge.  I do not need to lash out against those who sow discord, lie, plot evil, find joy in causing drama and dissension, or even commit murder.

Want to know why?

Because the Greatest Judge takes umbrage with these as well and He will take care of all His people as He sees fit.

So part of me is a bit vindictive when I say that whether in this life or the next, the evil will get their due.  But mainly, I know that God put these people in my path to teach me something, about the world or about myself.  I do not claim to fathom His goals and intentions beyond expecting me at my best, seeing me at my worst, and empowering me to empower others.  And to lead, when I can, the haughty and the liars and the family members seeking to cause harm, away from that which the Lord hates.

What verse helps you stand up straight in the face of those who would drag you down?